Don't worry too much about getting old.
I have found the first year with Myrmica to be one of the worst, unless you boost with some pupae. They often go 5-9 months before they get their first worker. I did it the hard way 5 times, now I boost from one of my captive colonies.
Now that they have over 10 workers, they will grow much quicker. Once they top 50-80, they will pick up pace again. Most of the colonies I see in the wild rarely top 200 workers, but the locations I find them in are such that I am surprised that they are alive at all (often pure sand, hot and dry).
In better settings (more moisture and food, fewer extremes) I find much larger colonies. The largest I found had at least 5000 workers - and that was just foraging workers, I never did manage to find the nest so I have no idea how many queens were in it.
Fruit flies are pretty easy, even if you just keep 2-3 cultures going at various stages you will have plenty. You will be amazed how many flies those Myrmica can eat when they put their minds to it.
As for mealworms, you can put a few in the fridge for constant feedings, but I would stick about 3/4 of them into a plastic shoebox with 4" of bran. You will have your own mealworm factory. And then you will be able to feed various sizes (and pupae, which they love). I think mealworms are one of the easiest feeders out there to raise. I often ignore mine for a month at a time.