18 replies to this topic

[Manitobant]

I can't believe I had to make a thread about this, but the behavior towards him must stop. I get that he can frustrate some of you but as a fellow person with anger issues as well as OCD, ADHD and asperger's syndrome I can say that this is not a laughing matter and can drive someone to self harm. Please just leave the man alone and stop making this place, and even the hobby as a whole, look like a toxic sh*thole

[AntPhycho]

He brought toxicity here, we are only returning it. I do not promote self harm but you can't expect us to put up with him being excessively rude. 

[MrPurpleB]

I do feel similar. Sometimes it can be frustrating to deal with others who might appear to be hostile, but I don't agree continuing the arguements with no form of proper, civil criticism can be unnecessary. I do hope both sides calm down. It would be nice just to be a bit more supportive.

[Manitobant]

He brought toxicity here, we are only returning it. I do not promote self harm but you can't expect us to put up with him being excessively rude.

2 wrongs don't make a right

[AntPhycho]

 

He brought toxicity here, we are only returning it. I do not promote self harm but you can't expect us to put up with him being excessively rude.

2 wrongs don't make a right

 

A little lecture on why he shouldn't do what he is doing is not wrong, it can only help him in the future. 

[Hightlyze]

What's Asperger's

[Manitobant]

Its like a milder form of autism on the high end of the autism spectrum. Affects social skills.

[Hightlyze]

Ok but why did you mention it earlier

[Manitobant]

Ok but why did you mention it earlier

because people with this often have other mental issues like anger

[Hightlyze]

I don't think I have a mental disorder besides anger issues

[ponerinecat]

anger issues is not a mental disorder. I have them too. I just apply them to myself.

[MrPurpleB]

It may not be best to jump into conclusions, but I do agree that the toxcity should stop.

[Silq]

He brought toxicity here, we are only returning it. I do not promote self harm but you can't expect us to put up with him being excessively rude. 

I agree. When you wake up and look at the forums and there are like 3 different threads made by the same guy and he is raging in the threads talking to himself.. it makes you think, we didn't even do anything to him and he is already angry. Either he is going to learn now or he is going to later but that kind of nonsense isn't accepted in society. When my nieces act out, I tell her she is acting out and if she doesn't correct her behavior then there will be consequences such as no more tablet time/Youtube, etc. This kid needs a time out but I am not sure why one hasn't been placed because he too is fueling the fire he started with incoherent responses. I know he is a kid but half this forum is filled with kids but they don't act out like this and all these excuses are being said to excuse his responses.

[MrPurpleB]

I think that's a valid point and I wasn't too surprised by the initial responses when Hightlyze lashed out or made poor choices. I only have issue with the situation today. It was fair the backlash he initially got for me being upset for not receiving the help he wanted. However, I do feel that some continued the fights longer than needed be. Sure Hightlyze did no better by continuing them, but seriously continue the bickering was very unnecessary.

[PacificNorthWestern]

i just read all of that, and kinda questioning some things right now. First of all if you tell someone to f*** off, and they tell you to f*** off back. that's not bullying. You can't just s*** on a community and expect for everything to be perfectly fine at the end of this. Just apologize man. Nobody really cares at the end of the day if you just say you're sorry and try to do the right thing. Also as a 13 year old. why do you feel the need to lash out at us. we didn't waste your money, nor your time, most of us weren't mean until you started it. i just want dude to come out of this as a bigger guy

[AntsBC]

I can't believe I had to make a thread about this, but the behavior towards him must stop. I get that he can frustrate some of you but as a fellow person with anger issues as well as OCD, ADHD and asperger's syndrome I can say that this is not a laughing matter and can drive someone to self harm. Please just leave the man alone and stop making this place, and even the hobby as a whole, look like a toxic sh*thole

 

A fair amount of the time, Formiculture remains a professional setting. This is the particular reason I spend time here.

 

When you have authors who format their posts like they're from Elementary school (or Discord), the results are evident; they draw attention from others who indulge in the same behaviour, and/or level of unprofessionalism.

 

This is not a matter of what Formiculture is doing wrong, it is a matter of what the authors in this thread (and other threads) are doing wrong. I believe Hightlyze has brewed his own storm, although I do agree that some members of the Forum should be more patient with him. That being said, his personal level of unprofessionalism needs to end.

 

Also, mental disabilities do not excuse someone's behaviour. I don't really care if someone has a "condition" which raises the chance of them having "mental issues like anger". If they would like to be treated as equal in our society, (or on our Forum specifically), they need to leave their predispositions behind them and act like the rest of us. It may be harder for them then for some, but it is entirely possible.

 

I know we live in a culture that has decided to believe that everyone is a victim: no one is responsible for their own, personal actions; and repercussions as a result of their personal actions. In regards to this issue, I don't think applying that way of thinking will help solve anything.

Edited by AntsBC, September 10 2019 - 9:13 PM.

[Hightlyze]

Ok

[Silq]

 

I can't believe I had to make a thread about this, but the behavior towards him must stop. I get that he can frustrate some of you but as a fellow person with anger issues as well as OCD, ADHD and asperger's syndrome I can say that this is not a laughing matter and can drive someone to self harm. Please just leave the man alone and stop making this place, and even the hobby as a whole, look like a toxic sh*thole

 

A fair amount of the time, Formiculture remains a professional setting. This is the particular reason I spend time here.

 

When you get authors who format their posts like they're from Elementary school (or Discord), the results are evident; you draw attention from others who indulge in the same behaviour and/or level of professionalism.

 

This is not a matter of what Formiculture is doing wrong, it is a matter of what the authors in this thread (and other threads) are doing wrong. I believe Hightlyze has brewed his own storm, although I do agree that some members of the Forum should be more patient with him. That being said, his personal level of unprofessionalism needs to end.

 

Also, mental disabilities do not excuse Hightlyze's behavior. I don't really care if someone has a "condition" which raises the chance of them having "mental issues like anger". If they would like to be treated as equal in our society, (or on our Forum specifically), they need to leave their predispositions behind them and act like the rest of us. It may be harder for them then for some, but it is entirely possible.

 

I know we live in a culture that has decided to believe that everyone is a victim: no one is responsible for their own, personal actions; and repercussions as a result of their personal actions. In regards to this issue, I don't think applying that way of thinking will help solve anything.

 

I totally agree with you. I'm more or less indirectly rude. Part of me was helping and the other was also being an [censored]. I was helping my wife write an email on her computer while she sat on mine reading the forums asking about the drama. I explained it to her then told her he is a 13-year old and she put me in my place a bit for bullying a kid. I guess I could be a bit more compassionate since I do deal with inept people in the professional world on a daily basis.

[drtrmiller]

 

I was helping my wife write an email on her computer while she sat on mine reading the forums asking about the drama. I explained it to her then told her he is a 13-year old and she put me in my place a bit for bullying a kid. I guess I could be a bit more compassionate since I do deal with inept people in the professional world on a daily basis.

 

When I was in my mid teens and started interacting with online communities for the first time, my temperament and writing style was roughly the same as it is now, over a decade later.  The only difference is that now I know more stuff.

 

There are now, and have been in the past, plenty of teenage Formiculture members, the vast majority of whom never behaved so ridiculously.  My experience with teaching kids tells me this member's behavior and temperament isn't going to undergo some dramatic metamorphosis as he ages, no matter how hard people here try to help.

 

The problem, as it is now, is that there are no consequences for ridiculous and provocative behavior, because the forum rules and moderation are so inadequate with respect to dealing with these things.

 

In the early days, Drew did find the time to warn and limit posting by younger members who were behaving in almost the same way as this member.  But now that he has little time to manage this forum, these members seem to be allowed free reign on the forum, and they only quit once they've exhausted the entertainment value gained from constantly provoking responses from others, which this member seems to have an uncanny ability to do.

Edited by drtrmiller, September 11 2019 - 9:44 AM.